It may seem counter-intuitive, but encouraging your ex to try new and exciting things without you can work in your favor if you plan on getting back together with your ex.
Why is that?
You want to encourage your ex to follow their dreams because you will seem supportive, and not clingy.
Actually, you’re being supportive, and not just seem like it. The point being, that if you encourage your ex boyfriend or girlfriend to take flight after their dreams, it is a much better position to be in than being that clingy ex that just “doesn’t get the message.”
Nobody wants a clinger. No one wants to deal with the ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend that just won’t go away. However, I dare say, that everyone wants to be with someone that is supportive of their dreams and desires.
I’m not saying that you need to sell everything that you own so you can finance your exes under water basket weaving classes. What I am saying, is that providing your ex with gentle encouragement and support can go a long way in helping you get back together.
Help them attain their goals and they will want to thank you by being with you.
This is very important
You should never just out of the blue start encouraging your ex without first having done some things to help yourself first.
When and if you approach your ex to start up a friendship again, you need to first be sure that you want to get back together with your ex. You also need to be sure that you are in a healthy place mentally to handle getting back together with them.
What do you do if your ex has started seeing someone new during the time that you were separated? What if the thing that they’d like to do, is precisely start seeing other people?
Well, despite what you may think, you should encourage them to do that as well. The whole time that they are on their date, they’ll be thinking of you and how great and supportive you are. They may not stop talking about you to their date.
Regardless of what your ex wants to do, encouraging them without putting yourself in mental, emotional, financial or any other kind of peril is good for the overall plan of getting back together with your ex. That’s precisely it though, you need to have a plan and you need to be sure that you are in a good and proper place to start dealing with your ex.
Post time: 12-26-2017